The Pressure & Judgment Around Breastfeeding (And Why It Shouldn’t Exist)

Becoming a mother comes with so many emotions—joy, exhaustion, love, uncertainty—and sometimes, pressure. Pressure to get things “right,” pressure to stop breastfeeding at a certain time, and for some, pressure not to breastfeed in public at all.

I hear it all the time:

“You’re still breastfeeding?!”
“That baby’s too old for that now.”
“Shouldn’t you cover up?”

But here’s the truth: breastfeeding is normal, natural, and deeply personal. There is no set rule on how long you “should” do it or where you’re “allowed” to feed your baby.

For many mums, it’s these social pressures—not their own instincts—that make them hesitate, second-guess, or stop before they’re truly ready.

The Science (and Reality) of Extended Breastfeeding

In the UK, most women stop breastfeeding between 6-12 months, but worldwide, the average age for weaning is 3-4 years old. In some cultures, it continues well beyond that.

Why? Because breastfeeding isn’t just about food—it’s:
✔ Comfort – A safe space when the world feels overwhelming.
✔ Security – A deep, unspoken connection between mother and child.
✔ Health benefits – Studies show extended breastfeeding continues to boost immunity, support brain development, and provide essential nutrients beyond the first year.

It’s not about following a trend or proving a point—it’s about what works best for you and your baby.

The Stigma of Breastfeeding in Public (And How to Overcome It)

One of the biggest challenges many mums face is breastfeeding in public.

The reality? It’s completely legal to breastfeed anywhere in the UK. The Equality Act 2010 protects your right to feed your baby when and where they need it.

But that doesn’t always stop the stares, the comments, or the subtle (and not-so-subtle) disapproval.

If you’re feeling nervous about feeding in public:

Find a space where you feel safe and comfortable. Cafés, baby-friendly spaces, and parks are great starting points.
Choose clothing that makes feeding easier. A loose top, nursing dress, or a muslin for a little extra coverage if it makes you feel more at ease.
Focus on your baby, not on others. Remember, you are doing nothing wrong.

Every time a mother confidently nurses in public, it helps normalise it for others.

Breastfeeding Without a Time Limit: Doing What’s Right for You & Your Baby

There is no “right” time to stop breastfeeding—only what feels right for you and your child.

I breastfed my first for just a few weeks, and my second for six months. Looking back, I wish I’d continued for longer. At the time, I stopped for reasons that felt right, but if I could go back, I’d tell myself to trust my instincts and take it one feed at a time.

If extended breastfeeding feels right for you:

Ignore the judgment. No one gets to decide when your child no longer needs that comfort.
Remind yourself why you’re doing it. Connection, bonding, nourishment—these are valid, beautiful reasons.
You’re not alone. There are many mothers around the world breastfeeding toddlers and beyond—you just don’t always see them.

Changing the Narrative (And Supporting Other Mums, Too)

Every time we talk openly about breastfeeding—whether it’s nursing in public, extended breastfeeding, or simply sharing our experiences—we help shift the conversation.

If you’re a breastfeeding mum, know this:

You are seen.
You are supported.
You are doing something beautiful.

And if you see another mum breastfeeding—offer her a smile, a nod, or a kind word. It makes a difference.

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I'm Samantha, a London-based Portrait Photographer, Content Marketer, and Educator. I've been capturing the essence of adults, children, and babies since 2012. You can also explore my London Newborn Photography Work here

My goal is to help individuals, families, and brands forge meaningful connections with themselves and their audiences.

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